Leaning Into Uncertainty: The Feminine Power We Are Taught to Fear
“You have the strength to be in the uncertainty and face the unknown.”
I’ve heard this exact sentence three times in the last three days. And that made me pause, because that comfort wasn’t always there. It didn’t come easily.
It came from leaving my career, my home country, my home, my diet, and most of my belongings behind. And then walking without a map for a very long time. The only guiding star I had was the pull to return to myself.
It came from learning how to sit with the discomfort I used to run from. It came from slowly becoming friends with the very things I once feared: uncertainty and the unknown.
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Recently, the conversations I’ve had with clients have all been orbiting around the same thing: The fear of uncertainty. The discomfort of not knowing what comes next.
All of my clients are in search of clarity. And I believe one of my superpowers is to help you find it.
But it always begins with this: You first have to face uncertainty and learn to trust the unknown.
And that’s why I want to talk about it more and remind you that being in uncertainty is a natural, even beautiful place to be. You are not weak. You are not lost. You are not in the wrong place. You are exactly where you need to be — between the old and the new.
What If Uncertainty Is Where a Part of Your Power Lives?
We all have masculine and feminine energy within us. But we’ve been conditioned to believe that power looks like:
- Knowing
- Planning
- Doing
- Logic
- Control
All of these are masculine traits.
Meanwhile, the creative, chaotic, intuitive, flowing, cyclical, emotional feminine power has been pushed into the background.
And uncertainty is part of the feminine power within you. So, you don’t lose your power in uncertainty— you might lose access to it.
When most people drop into uncertainty and feel powerless, they’re not actually powerless, they are just unfamiliar with how to be there. They haven’t yet built the safety to:
- Be with what is unclear
- Hold space for what is yet to form
- Trust the unknown — without needing proof
The more you create safety within yourself, the more your power becomes available, especially in moments of uncertainty and when you’re standing in the unknown. That’s where your feminine power expands.
Why the Mind Fights It
The mind loves the familiar. Not because it’s right, but because it feels safe.
Even when something is no longer good for you: a job, a relationship, a role, a way of being, the mind clings. Because it’s known.
Uncertainty — and being in the unknown — feels like a free fall. Like darkness or a loss of control. You don’t know what you’re about to face or what will happen next. Your mind interprets both uncertainty and the unknown as threats, because it can’t predict or control them.
In the unknown, you’re being invited to:
- Let go of the familiar
- Be present in the “empty” space
- And lean into something deeper than logic
That’s where trust begins. That’s where you reconnect with the part of you that already knows. Your power is simply waiting for you to meet it there.
And all that’s asked of you — is to become comfortable in the uncomfortable.
Uncertainty Is a Place of Limitless Possibility
Yes, uncertainty can be terrifying. It can bring up fear, doubt, anxiety.
But that same space also holds your limitless potential. Because in this space:
- Innovation is born
- Intuition is sharpened
- Creativity is unlocked
- Transformation unfolds
The more you lean into uncertainty, not to fix it, but to accept it, the more you begin to see that it’s not empty. It’s actually full of possibilities.
You can create great things with certainty. But you can only create something new in uncertainty.
Heal with me for a sec.
- In what area of your life are you searching for clarity?
- Where are you resisting the unknown?
- What might shift if, instead of trying to solve uncertainty, you simply let yourself be with it, just for a moment?
If you need more clarity and guidance, I am here for you.
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Essi Koski-Lammi
Essi Koski-Lammi is a Wellbeing Trailblazer, Feminine Executive Coach, Healer, Clairvoyant and Conscious Interior Designer. She believes that how we live, work, and care for ourselves is deeply influenced by the connection between the spaces within and around us. With a diploma in interior design, over 22 years of experience in energy healing and meditation, MSC in Business and a strong background in global branding and marketing, Essi combines her expertise to empower women to transform their homes, businesses, and lives — and most importantly, themselves — so that every part of life feels aligned and truly their own.
