When Your Life and Career No Longer Look Like You
Have you ever looked around your life — your job, your surroundings — and thought: “This doesn’t really feel like me anymore”?
“Is this what I truly want and need in life?”
“Is this what life is really about?”
“Is this who I truly am?”
You’re not alone.
More and more, I hear this from people who seem to have it all together — high performers, leaders, creatives — quietly realizing that something no longer fits. There’s no clear crisis. Nothing is technically wrong. But deep down, there’s a quiet truth rising:
“This life doesn’t look like me.”
This is where real change begins. It doesn’t need to go to the point that everything breaks, but when something inside of you quietly says:
“Something’s not right anymore. I don’t want this.”
The first step is honesty. Who are you now and who are you becoming? What do you actually want? What is your heart telling you?
The answers are there, but often there’s also fear. Especially in moments, when we are not talking about just changing companies or roles, but stepping into a life that truly, deeply looks like you. The one you dream about.
And in that dream life, you have a job that feels like you. Aligned. Alive. Something that doesn’t feel like “just a job,” but a true expression of who you are.
Now look at your job. Your business. Your day-to-day work life
Which parts feel energizing, expansive — true to you? And which parts feel like you’re performing a version of yourself that no longer fits?
– Maybe you’re doing work that no longer inspires you.
– Maybe your role is disconnected from your real values.
– Maybe you are only doing the job for money.
– Or maybe you built something once aligned — but you’ve changed, and it hasn’t.
But the truth is that your job is not your passion. Or even a step further, if you are honest, you don’t even like your job. It doesn’t serve the values that are true to you. Sometimes you catch yourself thinking, “How did I get here?” or “Why am I still here?”
None of that makes you ungrateful. You are just honest and aware.
We spend most of our waking hours working. So it matters deeply how you’re working, why you’re working, and who you’re becoming in the process.
Your values, passions and your job should match.
And no, your job is not your life purpose. It is one way to express your life purpose.
It should feel aligned with who you are. You should wake up every morning feeling grateful that you get to do what you do. It should support the person you’re here to be. It should energize you. It should make you feel alive, even when it asks a lot from you. It should be your passion.
You know when someone is passionate about their work without them saying it directly — because they naturally talk about it. Not to impress, but because they care. It lights them up. The tone is different. The words they use are different.
When someone is not passionate, they rarely bring up their work in casual conversations. Instead, they’ll talk about everything else: hobbies, weekend plans, nice restaurants…
Which one are you?
Heal with me for a sec.
It’s not too late to reconnect with yourself. To ask new questions. To realign your direction, before you drift further from it.
So, what are you waiting for? The perfect day? The right opportunity? Someone else to decide? More money? One more certification?
You — and only you — have the power to create the life you dream about.
And the first step is awareness.
The second step doesn’t need to be quitting your job — it can be day dreaming followed by a smaller step toward navigating in the direction you actually want. But, before that you do need to know, what lights you up.
And if you don’t pay attention to this misalignment, it turns into stress. Disconnection. Dissatisfaction. Numbness. Even burnout. It slowly erodes your confidence.
And the longer you wait, the harder it becomes to hear your own voice.
So start now. Reflect. Be honest. Dream again. Realign.
You deserve a life — and a career — that actually feels like home.
If you are ready to transform the direction of your life toward one that truly looks like you, I’m here for you. I know what you’re going through — I’ve been there. Now I support my clients in reconnecting to themselves, their direction, and creating careers, homes, and lives that actually feel like theirs.
Reach out if you’re at that edge.
Authentic Feminine Success Column
In the Authentic Feminine Success Column, Essi Koski-Lammi shares her honest reflections and guidance on building life, home and business with an authentic, feminine approach.
Essi Koski-Lammi
Essi Koski-Lammi is a Conscious Interior Designer, Inner Alignment Healer, and Spiritual Business Advisor. She believes that how we live, work, and care for ourselves is deeply influenced by the connection between the spaces within and around us. With a diploma in interior design, over 22 years of experience in energy healing and meditation, MSC in Business and a strong background in global branding and marketing, Essi combines her expertise to empower women to transform their homes, businesses, and lives — and most importantly, themselves — so that every part of life feels aligned and truly their own.
